I haven't posted anything in a while
and to be honest I have a long list that I should take care of. But
this topic really bugged me and I needed to put it in words.
Why is our society discriminating
against singles?
Maybe “discriminate” is a tough
word. But if the shoe fits...
The thing is most of what we want is
planned for two. I'm not referring to the things that make sense
(like buying a racket and realizing, you need a second person to play
with). I'm referring to the things that shouldn't have to be or
weren't before.
In my case:
I'm currently looking for a new place
to live. I'm at an age where I want my own. Before I moved here I
even had my own place but now I'm in the San Francisco Bay Area and
it seems just impossible.
I don't know about you but I don't earn
an insane amount of money that I can spent over 2K in rent every
month. So you either have to get roommates or you move in with your significant other. Bottom line you have to find someone else.
If I look at all of my friends and
colleagues they either live at home with their parents or they live
with their partner, just one or two have roommates.
When you look at low income housing
programs a lot of them specify elderly, people with disabilities or
families (aka plus ones). And the ones that don't have any
specification usually have a two year waiting list.
But what about the hard working single
person? My salary is okay. I even earn more than most of the people I know (of whom I
know their income) and yet I'm the only one who can't afford her own
place! Are my only options for my own place to get a second job again and go back to
working 16h/7days or completely move away from the Bay Area?
This is so frustrating!!!
Even if I except that 'as long as I'm
alone I won't be able to have my own place' (and that thought just
infuriates me) this is not the only thing!
What happened to single rooms in
hotels?
For my big birthday in two years my
family is planning a cruise. My wonderful sister offered me to stay
with them in their family room (two adults, two young children). But
it's my big birthday and I want to treat myself to my own little
space. But there are no single rooms on the ship! If I want to get my
own I still have to pay for a double or bring someone with me to
share the double! What is this??
Why is everything around us pressuring
us to couple up? Do they think that just because I'm not with someone
I've probably focused on my career so much that I should make a ton
of money by now to afford being single?
No wonder there are all those desperate
people out there looking for someone (and sorry for not being one of
them!). Everything around us forces us to find someone to share our
rent, our hotel room, (our lives) or even a reclinable chair in the
movie theater with.
The topic made me wonder if anyone
else feels this way and I realized there are uncountable blogs and
articles about this. Apparently single people earn less and are less
desirable for a lease. As if the constant bugging of our families
isn't hard enough. Even if you're insanely happy, love your job, family and friends and
are able to experience the most amazing adventures, the couples
around us have the impression that as long as you don't have someone else,
you're missing something.
So to all the other happy, hard-working
single girls and boys out there, don't let them pressure you into
anything.
We might not get what we want today but - watch out world - one day we will!
...even if it's something as simple as our own little home.
